Counselling & Psychotherapy
Counselling & Psychotherapy in Exeter
My working model stems from the belief that each individual has an innate tendency for goodness and healing. Recent neuroscience research has supported this belief.
During our counselling sessions in Exeter, we will cooperate together to see what your difficulties may be, what they may be originating from, and find ways to respond to them in a way that feels right to you. We will aim at making sense of your current reality by finding the triggers associated to your past experiences.
For example, when your wife or your husband makes a comment about you, you may immediately feel triggered and thoughts like "s/he doesn't love me" may come to mind. Feelings of rejection may also be present. Your instant reaction is to attack back with a criticism or similar. Before you know it, you are both triggered and your discussion has escalated into an argument, or even worse. But those thoughts or feelings may have more to do with not feeling loved by one of your parents or feeling rejected by them as a child.
In counselling and psychotherapy sessions in Exeter, you will learn to recognise your triggers, to calm down during these critical moments, and to respond in a different way. You will learn how to discern what feelings belong to your present and which ones belong to your past.
When you change your childhood patterns, they no longer keep you trapped. You can create your own reality, enjoy your projects, improve your relationships. You realise that you are constantly changing and anything is possible in your life.
My approach is informed by evidence-based psychodynamic and attachment theories, neuroscience and trauma research, mindfulness, and some input from sensorimotor psychotherapy. My knowledge of EFT (see beside) can also be useful as a tool to calm down your nervous system if you're very anxious.
As an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP), I abide by its ethical framework, including maintaining confidentiality, working closely with a supervisor, and being actively involved in the profession through CPD and different roles in counselling associations.
Clinical EFT in Exeter
EFT or Emotional Freedom Techniques, also known as Tapping is an interesting tool that uses the Chinese meridian system to calm down the activation in your nervous system. It has been called "clinical" by some authors because extensive research has been done regarding its efficacy. Recently, the UK organisation NICE has recommended public funds should be invested to investigate EFT further as a tool for PTSD and trauma.
I normally use EFT as part of my counselling "toolkit", but I also offer purely EFT sessions in Exeter. Sometimes called "emotional acupuncture without the needles", during an EFT session, you can calm down your nervous system and rewire your brain, creating new pathways and a new reality.
When we pay attention to two ideas, often linking them together, a pathway is created (i. e. a baby: "I am crying, no one comes to comfort me" is linked to "asking for help doesn't work.") If we experience certain things many times in our childhood, we create pathways that may not be useful as adults. (i. e. same baby as adult: I need help, but what's the point, no one will be there). With tapping, we can relax and rewire our pathways (i. e. maybe if I ask for help, this time someone will be there).
You will be tapping acupuncture meridian points, most of them located in your face, while saying a reminder word of what you wish to heal (trust that someone will be there).
We can use EFT for intense cravings if you wish to lose weight or stop smoking. Fears and anxieties can reduce in intensity after a couple of EFT sessions. If you wish to change deep-seated childhood patterns and belief systems (i. e. "I'm useless"), you may have to commit to longer term work. Counselling combined with EFT may be better for these issues.
EFT can be safely used for the treatment of trauma, as it calms down the amygdala (fire alarm in your brain that sets you off). As your amygdala and nervous system calm down, your prefrontal cortex (sensible part of your brain) will take over, and you will be able to process your experience.
After a number of EFT sessions in Exeter, you may start feeling that your memories belong to the past. You may not need to talk about them any more, and if you do, your body will not feel activated. You will have a sense that they are resolved. You just know it. You will be forgetting the past and be ready to start a brand new life, free to create whatever you wish. Shifts are sometimes so radical that life feels like sheer excitement and full of opportunity.